Who We Are

Our professional staff has years of experience caring for families from all walks of life. We are leaders in our profession, with dedication to service and professional integrity.
  • When we sit down with a family, our shared goal is to create a fitting, memorable and affordable service for their loved one. We offer them a wide variety of services and products, as well as a wealth of creative ideas and suggestions. Together, we'll design a memorial or funeral service that suits their needs now, and in the future. Families who come to us know that years from now, they will have deep peace-of-mind because in coming to us, they've done their best to honor their loved one.

  • Our History

Our Greek-Revival style building was erected in 1845 by the family of Governor Charles Hobby Pond on the historical Milford Green and is handicapped accessible.    

       During the 1930’s and 1940’s, S. Harrington White served the communities of Milford and Orange and then in 1956, Thomas J. Cody, Sr. purchased the White Funeral Home and renamed it “Cody-White Funeral and Cremation Service”. With caring consideration, sage advice, and judicious council he offered excellent and professional services to the Milford and Orange communities and beyond. When Tom Sr. retired, his children, Tom J. Cody, Jr., Kevin W. Cody, and Jaclyn Cody D’Auria, and later his grandson Brian Cody, joined in the family business. Tom and Kevin still serve our community today.  Our funeral home and its staff is very community minded.  We are proud of the role that our staff plays in the community.  Along with established relationships with Churches, Hospitals, Hospice and Civic Groups, we actively participate with many nationally recognized organizations that help support our community.  Every one of our six full time Funeral Directors and support staff either lives in the Greater Milford Community or have family that lives here. We are your friends and neighbors; we shop in the same shops, go to the same churches, go to the same school functions, and participate and cherish the same local activities as you do.

      We are the proud sponsor of “The Caring Network”, two ongoing programs for people who have suffered a loss through death. The Caring Network for adults meets the third Wednesday of the month, 7:00 pm at the MILFORD HOSPITAL, for further information please call Cody-White Funeral Service at (203) 874-0268. There is no charge and no reservations are required. The Caring Network for Grieving Children meets twice a month 5:00-7:00 pm, September through June. Please contact Cathy Fisher, LCSW, at Bridges (203) 878-6365 ext. 445 for more information. 

      We have established a "Fallen Hero's Service" program. This program has been established to recognize the efforts of all City of Milford employees for their faithful service to our community. If an untimely death should occur during their scheduled work hours we will provide a funeral service of the family's choice including our services and merchandise at no cost to the bereaved family. This is Cody-White's way of showing our gratitude to our community for the many years of trust that has been shown to us. We are proud to be an integral member of the "Small City with a Big Heart". We will always serve our community as family because we are family!



Our Valued Staff

  • David J. DeRubeis
    David J. DeRubeis, Managing Partner/Funeral Director

    David graduated from Iona College in New Rochelle, NY, prior to attending the American Academy McAllister Institute of Funeral Service in New York, NY, where he graduated in 1977. His career in the funeral profession started with working for the David J. Hodder Funeral Home with locations in the Bronx and Yonkers, NY, eventually purchasing several funeral homes in Central Upstate, New York.
    David became Managing Partner at Cody-White in 2001 and resides in the Laurel Beach section of Milford with his family. He is active on numerous civic organizations, serving on various boards and committees.

  • Thomas J. Cody Jr.
    Thomas J. Cody Jr., Funeral Director

    Graduating in 1964 from the American Academy McAllister Institute of Funeral Service in New York, NY, he joined in his father in 1965 has been active in the business for over 40 years. Though currently on a leave of absence he is still very much a part of Cody-White. Tom is very active in the Devon Rotary in Milford and as a Corporator of the Milford Bank, as well as chairman of the Milford Graves Preservation Commission. He is the proud grandfather of three granddaughters.

  • Kevin W. Cody
    Kevin W. Cody, Funeral Director

    Kevin is a graduate of the American Academy McAllister Institute of Funeral Service in New York, NY, class of 1968 and proudly served in the U.S. Army for 6 years. Joining his father, he has been serving the families of the Milford and Orange communities for over 40 years. He has served on the Executive Board of Connecticut Funeral Directors Association and is active on numerous civic organizations, serving on various boards and committees.

  • Elizabeth Pappas
    Elizabeth Pappas, Funeral Director

    Betsy is a graduate from Lincoln College of New England formerly Briarwood College. She is a lifelong resident of Milford, growing up in the Morningside area of Woodmont . Betsy worked in a group home for adults with disabilities for thirteen years and is now a Funeral Director for Cody-White Funeral Home. Betsy loves Milford and can be found at many of the community activities throughout the year.

  • Lori Choromanski
    Lori Choromanski, Office Manager

    As a Funeral Director's Assistant for more than four years with Cody-White, she has worked as an inpatient representative for Milford Hospital for six years as well as a case worker for a personal injury attorney. Lori is a longtime resident of Milford and enjoys spending time with her nine grandchildren.

  • Susan Pastir
    Susan Pastir, Administrative Assistant

    Susan has been a resident of Milford for over 33 years. She worked for People's Bank in Milford for 13 years before joining Cody-White in 2000. She adores her eight grandchildren and spends as much time as she can with them. People can't help but be drawn to her bubbly personality and positive outlook she has on every aspect of life.

  • Jan Baldwin
    Jan Baldwin, Harpist

    Named as the "Hometown Harpist" by Milford Living Magazine, Jan is currently focusing her musical efforts to exploring and studying the harp as a therapeutic and comfort-inducing instrument. She is part of our special services that we offer to our families and she chooses her music with an appropriate empathy and compassion. As a long time Milford resident, Jan has a special musical involvement with the Milford community as a music educator, church organist/choir director and as a community choral director for major concerts and special events throughout the city. For Jan, her music is a way of life and an integral part of Milford's community fabric.

  • Brian Cimbak
    Brian Cimbak, Apprentice

    Brian is a lifelong resident of the Milford Community. A graduate of Jonathan Law HS in 2008, Brian pursued his career as a Funeral Director at Lincoln College of New England (formerly Briarwood), where he recently graduated. He has been a dedicated member of the Cody-White team as an ambassador for the past 2 years, and now is serving his apprenticeship. Brian is a vintage car enthusiast.

  • Kyle C Duke
    Kyle C Duke, Funeral Director

    Kyle is moving to Milford from New York where he was a Funeral Director at a Jewish Funeral Home in Rockland County and became very knowledgeable with Jewish funeral customs and traditions. He also worked alongside the Chevra Kadisha of Rockland County to make sure all requests from families were met. Graduating from American Academy McAllister Institute of Funeral Service in December of 2006, he has been a licensed director for 6 years. In his spare time, Kyle enjoys playing a round of golf.

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