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Erin Rebecca Sawicki
November 23, 1977 ~ February 20, 2017 (age 39) 39 Years Old Light a Candle
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A candle was lit by Joan Sawicki
on January 10, 2018 9:58 PM
A candle was lit by Jose Roig (Spain)
on March 30, 2017 11:52 AM
Message from Jose Roig (Spain)
March 30, 2017 11:19 AM
Dear Joan and Walter. I just found out about Erin's loss. I am very sorry for what you are going through right now. You always treated me like a son and Erin as a brother the time I spent with you. I will always remember Erin as she was in the days she spent with us in Spain, with a smile in her face.
I'm very sorry for your loss.
Sincerely Jose Roig (Spain)
I'm very sorry for your loss.
Sincerely Jose Roig (Spain)
Message from Joan
November 5, 2017 3:31 PM
Jose, thank you for your kind words. I haven't been on this site in a while but Erin's birthday is coming up and I visited and saw your post. It is very comforting.
Message from Erin's Dad
March 12, 2017 6:58 PM
EULOGY ERIN SAWICKI STRUGGLES AND SUCCESS
Erin, you once said to me, Daddy if anything happens to me, please do not let anyone forget me and tell them about my good qualities. I hope this does you justice.
Some people measure success by educational degrees and occupations attained, monies earned, skills mastered, and awards and recognition for good works in the community.
Erin’s achievements were markedly different in her first 23 yrs than her latter 16 yrs.
Her successes in later life were her battles to beat addiction and numerous mental illnesses. We were always proud that she worked very hard and really never gave up because of tremendous family support from her mother and I, her brother Geoff and his wife Beth, and her Godmother, Aunt Diane my sister. I can also proudly and honestly say that no one did more to help Erin with boundless patience than her Mom.
She beat addiction through successful graduation from the CVH Star Women’s program, various half-way house residences, job training and daily methadone treatments.
With medications and training, she beat her anxiety and panic disorders, which prevented her from being with anyone including her family on countless occasions.
However, her struggles with depression and PTSD caused by painful traumas were more difficult. They deeply affected her sense of self-worth. Counselings and mood medications helped. But then she developed BPD marked by uncontrollable anger and emotions, suspicions and conspiracies that everyone was out to take everything from her and no one cared about her, the features of which played repeatedly day after day. “Daddy, help me, I am going crazy.” Help came from Probate Judge Beverly Streit-Kefalas, who recommended Melissa’s Project, who teamed up Bridges Community Support System to develop a comprehensive services plan with counseling, SWs - visiting nurse and medical services and an IOP classes. Erin once again had hope and upon picking her up after her first session, she said this is just what she needed, ……she then thanked, hugged and told me she loved me. She also made a beautiful hand crafted painted Valentines Card in which she told her mother and I how much she loved us. But then, 5 days later, such promise was not to be.
Earlier Life
But there is a happier part of this story, one that we will always cherish and remember. In Erin’s earlier life, she did make remarkable achievements of which both she and our family are very proud. I will limit to 2 items.
I taught her to do paralegal level work in my law office and she was a whirling dervish for a couple of years. She also worked for time and did well in her mother’s mortgage office.
She did my closings and bankruptcies and those are detailed and time consuming tasks and I had a ton of those cases. She also did calendarings, filings, telephone calls, mailings and most difficult of all …. Interpreted tons of my awful handwritten letters into perfect typewritten documents. Even my wife could not do that and pleaded with me to just talk to me, don’t write anything. I would come back from court, and we would do calendaring, check telp messages, and check the things she was preparing. If she was not done with something and I would touch one of her things she was still working on, she would say “Dad, don’t touch anything, you will mess it up!” I was not angry because she was so well organized, wanted to do everything right, and I realized she needed to concentrate. She was timely and accurate all the time. She was always proud to tell others about working in a law office and so was I.
Erin was an accomplished pianist and was also attempting to master drums. She had a great love of all types of music and even loved my 50s and 60s collection and especially my disco records.
Her brother Geoff bought her a Casio piano when she was maybe 5. She would listen to songs on the radio, or play records and then attempt to play them on the Casio. She was so happy with that Casio. One day, I get a call from her girlfriend’s mother, who said excitedly “Mr. Sawicki, please listen to this.” What I heard was a good 2-minute partial rendition of the Fleur de Lis, a classical piece that all aspiring piano players must learn first. That lady came back on the phone, told me that as she was a piano teacher, she saw Erin sit at her piano trying to play it, and told me she taught Erin that music piece in 5 minutes flat. She then would not let me off the phone until I said “OK, I will sign her up for piano lessons.” Her Mom went to Fladd music in Town and signed Erin up for lessons.
Piano students must practice drills every day. Erin practiced drills every day and I listened as much as I could because there is nothing more that I like than music. At supper time, sometimes Erin would just get up and start practicing drills. Joanie and I never got angry as when you get the urge to learn to play, you just do it. We could always heat up the food. Sometimes Erin could not get the notes right. With a hrummpp, she would bang on the keys, run downstairs, talk to herself, come back up and bang out the drill correctly and the with a big smile, she sat down to eat. Her claim to fame was appearing in a piano recital at the well-known Neighborhood School of Music in New Haven. Oh, how happy she was and how proud we were. She also took drum lessons and her teacher said she had great rhythm and learned rapidly.
Erin, you brought us great joy and we know how much you struggled and cried that all you want is a family of your own and a baby. We will always remember how you filled our house with your many girlfriends for all four years of high school and oftentimes would play my 50s and 60s music for them, especially the Beatles, and then you discovered my disco records and you and they played the grooves off those records. We remember fondly how happy you were to hold a paper route, participate in league soccer and cheerleading, play the piano, and listen to your records. We will always treasure the tons of spiritual drawings you made as you were a good artist too.
From my Catholic grammar school education, we were taught that God would welcome first the poor and afflicted into Heaven before everyone else and sit at the right hand of God. We are sure that is where you are now in peace and playing piano for as you always said, A Higher Power. So many people have come to celebrate your peace and to support the Sawicki Family. Erin, you will never be forgotten. Your loving Mom and Day.
Erin, you once said to me, Daddy if anything happens to me, please do not let anyone forget me and tell them about my good qualities. I hope this does you justice.
Some people measure success by educational degrees and occupations attained, monies earned, skills mastered, and awards and recognition for good works in the community.
Erin’s achievements were markedly different in her first 23 yrs than her latter 16 yrs.
Her successes in later life were her battles to beat addiction and numerous mental illnesses. We were always proud that she worked very hard and really never gave up because of tremendous family support from her mother and I, her brother Geoff and his wife Beth, and her Godmother, Aunt Diane my sister. I can also proudly and honestly say that no one did more to help Erin with boundless patience than her Mom.
She beat addiction through successful graduation from the CVH Star Women’s program, various half-way house residences, job training and daily methadone treatments.
With medications and training, she beat her anxiety and panic disorders, which prevented her from being with anyone including her family on countless occasions.
However, her struggles with depression and PTSD caused by painful traumas were more difficult. They deeply affected her sense of self-worth. Counselings and mood medications helped. But then she developed BPD marked by uncontrollable anger and emotions, suspicions and conspiracies that everyone was out to take everything from her and no one cared about her, the features of which played repeatedly day after day. “Daddy, help me, I am going crazy.” Help came from Probate Judge Beverly Streit-Kefalas, who recommended Melissa’s Project, who teamed up Bridges Community Support System to develop a comprehensive services plan with counseling, SWs - visiting nurse and medical services and an IOP classes. Erin once again had hope and upon picking her up after her first session, she said this is just what she needed, ……she then thanked, hugged and told me she loved me. She also made a beautiful hand crafted painted Valentines Card in which she told her mother and I how much she loved us. But then, 5 days later, such promise was not to be.
Earlier Life
But there is a happier part of this story, one that we will always cherish and remember. In Erin’s earlier life, she did make remarkable achievements of which both she and our family are very proud. I will limit to 2 items.
I taught her to do paralegal level work in my law office and she was a whirling dervish for a couple of years. She also worked for time and did well in her mother’s mortgage office.
She did my closings and bankruptcies and those are detailed and time consuming tasks and I had a ton of those cases. She also did calendarings, filings, telephone calls, mailings and most difficult of all …. Interpreted tons of my awful handwritten letters into perfect typewritten documents. Even my wife could not do that and pleaded with me to just talk to me, don’t write anything. I would come back from court, and we would do calendaring, check telp messages, and check the things she was preparing. If she was not done with something and I would touch one of her things she was still working on, she would say “Dad, don’t touch anything, you will mess it up!” I was not angry because she was so well organized, wanted to do everything right, and I realized she needed to concentrate. She was timely and accurate all the time. She was always proud to tell others about working in a law office and so was I.
Erin was an accomplished pianist and was also attempting to master drums. She had a great love of all types of music and even loved my 50s and 60s collection and especially my disco records.
Her brother Geoff bought her a Casio piano when she was maybe 5. She would listen to songs on the radio, or play records and then attempt to play them on the Casio. She was so happy with that Casio. One day, I get a call from her girlfriend’s mother, who said excitedly “Mr. Sawicki, please listen to this.” What I heard was a good 2-minute partial rendition of the Fleur de Lis, a classical piece that all aspiring piano players must learn first. That lady came back on the phone, told me that as she was a piano teacher, she saw Erin sit at her piano trying to play it, and told me she taught Erin that music piece in 5 minutes flat. She then would not let me off the phone until I said “OK, I will sign her up for piano lessons.” Her Mom went to Fladd music in Town and signed Erin up for lessons.
Piano students must practice drills every day. Erin practiced drills every day and I listened as much as I could because there is nothing more that I like than music. At supper time, sometimes Erin would just get up and start practicing drills. Joanie and I never got angry as when you get the urge to learn to play, you just do it. We could always heat up the food. Sometimes Erin could not get the notes right. With a hrummpp, she would bang on the keys, run downstairs, talk to herself, come back up and bang out the drill correctly and the with a big smile, she sat down to eat. Her claim to fame was appearing in a piano recital at the well-known Neighborhood School of Music in New Haven. Oh, how happy she was and how proud we were. She also took drum lessons and her teacher said she had great rhythm and learned rapidly.
Erin, you brought us great joy and we know how much you struggled and cried that all you want is a family of your own and a baby. We will always remember how you filled our house with your many girlfriends for all four years of high school and oftentimes would play my 50s and 60s music for them, especially the Beatles, and then you discovered my disco records and you and they played the grooves off those records. We remember fondly how happy you were to hold a paper route, participate in league soccer and cheerleading, play the piano, and listen to your records. We will always treasure the tons of spiritual drawings you made as you were a good artist too.
From my Catholic grammar school education, we were taught that God would welcome first the poor and afflicted into Heaven before everyone else and sit at the right hand of God. We are sure that is where you are now in peace and playing piano for as you always said, A Higher Power. So many people have come to celebrate your peace and to support the Sawicki Family. Erin, you will never be forgotten. Your loving Mom and Day.
A candle was lit by Linda and Mike Zimmermann
on February 28, 2017 10:55 AM
Message from Beth
February 25, 2017 3:11 PM
Our dear Erin, May you rest peacefully in gods arms. You will always be in our hearts, our thoughts and our prayers.
A candle was lit by Beth ❤️❤️❤️
on February 25, 2017 3:03 PM
A candle was lit by Geoff
on February 25, 2017 8:03 AM
Message from Fred G
February 25, 2017 7:59 AM
My heartfelt condolences for the loss of your beloved, Erin. Please know that Jehovah God and his son Jesus Christ is aware of your pain and they care for you. (2 Corinthians 1:3,4) . I pray that you are able to find comfort in God's promise of paradise where there will be no more pain and sorrow (Revelation 21:4,5) and the many wonderful memories of your beloved becoming a reality in the future resurrection in paradise. (Acts 24:15). Please accept my sincere condolences. (JW.org)
Message from Fred G
March 12, 2017 6:36 PM
Fred G, I am Erin's Dad, can you call me at 203 710 3300 to let me know your relation was to Erin? I do not recognize your name, but what you posted is very nice. Thank you!
Message from Patricia Macolino (Milford court Marshal)
February 23, 2017 10:54 PM
Dear Walter and family....may Erin Rest In Peace...it was always clear how much you love her whenever you spoke about her to me...I am so very sorry for your loss and I will keep you all in my prayers...
Message from Patricia - Court Marshal
March 12, 2017 6:39 PM
Hi Patricia, thank you so much for your posting. She was a wonderful and talented individual, but struggled mentally, emotionally and physically. No one should have to endure what she had to endure. Erin's Dad
A candle was lit by Bonnie (Pitino) Potenza
on February 23, 2017 10:27 PM
A candle was lit by Mark Sabo
on February 23, 2017 7:45 PM
A candle was lit by Lisa
on February 23, 2017 6:34 PM
Message from Lisa Dearborne
February 23, 2017 6:33 PM
Joan and Bob, I am so very sorry for your loss. Sending prayers your way. May God bless
Message from Lisa
March 12, 2017 6:42 PM
Thank you Lisa for your support. She was a wonderful and talented young woman, but she struggled emotionally, physically and mentally. No one should have to endure what she went through. We miss her terribly. Erin's Dad
Message from Bob Nagy
February 23, 2017 2:47 PM
Walter and Joan, keeping you in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time...
Message from Bob Nagy
March 12, 2017 6:43 PM
Bob, thanks for your support. We will miss her very much. She was a wonderful and talented person. Erin'd Dad
A candle was lit by Jo-Ann Granton
on February 23, 2017 12:45 PM
A candle was lit by Noelle Nails
on February 23, 2017 12:27 PM
Message from Michael and Anna Tondalo
February 23, 2017 10:58 AM
To Geoff, Beth and family,
Please accept our sincere condolences. May she rest in peace
Please accept our sincere condolences. May she rest in peace
A candle was lit by Susan Reilly
on February 23, 2017 10:32 AM
Message from Your Loving Dad
February 23, 2017 10:04 AM
Erin, you were the light of life and the reason for getting up everyday. I miss you oh so much. I will never forget you and the many happy times we had, especially when you became an accomplished pianist. We both shared our love of music together and I loved to sit and watch you practice your piano drills. And you were so happy then. May God have a special place for you, you struggled so hard and deserve it! Forever Love and will think about you always. Daddy
A candle was lit by Your Loving Dad
on February 23, 2017 9:57 AM
A candle was lit by Peter and Susan Spalthoff
on February 23, 2017 9:31 AM
Message from Mom and Dad
February 23, 2017 8:00 AM
Erin, we love you very much and our hearts are breaking today. We miss you but know that now you can rest peacefully with God.
A candle was lit by Joan
on February 23, 2017 7:48 AM
A candle was lit by Rebecca, Thomas and Amanda
on February 22, 2017 11:59 PM
Message from Christopher Carveth, Esq.
February 22, 2017 9:04 PM
Dear Walter, Joan and family,
Please know we are thinking of you from Florida. I regret not being able to see you tomorrow night or Friday but know that Erin is in our hearts and you in our prayers. Our sincere condolences.
Chris & Kim
Please know we are thinking of you from Florida. I regret not being able to see you tomorrow night or Friday but know that Erin is in our hearts and you in our prayers. Our sincere condolences.
Chris & Kim
Message from Chris
March 12, 2017 6:49 PM
Thank you so much for your comforting sentiment. She struggled so much and no one deserves to go through what she endured emotionally, mentally and physically. Walter
A candle was lit by Barbara McKernan
on February 22, 2017 8:10 PM
A candle was lit by Joanne Mackie
on February 22, 2017 6:32 PM
A candle was lit by Toni French
on February 22, 2017 12:47 PM
Message from Gail Denise
February 22, 2017 12:01 PM
Please accept my deepest sympathy for the loss of Erin. I hope that knowing you're in the thoughts of many will be of comfort during this difficult time. (2 Corinthians 1:3,4)
Message from Gail
March 12, 2017 6:50 PM
Thank you so much for your comforting sentiments. Erin's Dad
A candle was lit by Leslie Guevin
on February 22, 2017 11:28 AM
A candle was lit by Susan Reilly
on February 22, 2017 11:13 AM
A candle was lit by Jessica Coyle Rogers
on February 22, 2017 11:13 AM
A candle was lit by Fran Pizighelli
on February 22, 2017 10:42 AM
A candle was lit by Kim Fazackerley
on February 22, 2017 10:11 AM
A candle was lit by Murphy Hartford
on February 22, 2017 10:05 AM
A candle was lit by Nicole Olszewski (Kozieradzki) RIP Erin.
on February 22, 2017 10:02 AM
A candle was lit by Deb and Donna McCabe
on February 22, 2017 10:01 AM
Message from Deb and Donna McCabe
February 22, 2017 10:00 AM
So sorry to hear about Erin's passing. Sending love.
A candle was lit by Grenda Callahan
on February 22, 2017 6:58 AM
A candle was lit by Geoff
on February 22, 2017 6:21 AM
A candle was lit by Carol and Thomas Stirnweis and family
on February 22, 2017 5:07 AM
Message from James R, RN
February 22, 2017 3:39 AM
I will miss your smiles and all our conversations at night. Please rest in Peace. James
Message from James RN
March 12, 2017 6:46 PM
James, thank you for that sentiment. No one should have to endure what she went through. She was a wonderful and talented person, but as you know struggled emotionally, mentally and physically. Thank you from Erin's Mom and Dad for being friendly and comforting.
Message from Kitty Galvin
February 22, 2017 1:46 AM
Joan & family, I am so very sorry for your loss, I was more than surprised to hear of it. May she now rest in eternal peace. My prayers and thoughts are with you all. Kitty Galvin
Message from Thomas Stirnweis and Family
February 21, 2017 11:58 PM
Please accept my heartfelt condolences, words cannot begin to express the the sorrow we feel at this moment.
A candle was lit by Thomas, Carol, Brian, Kari and Kevin Stirnweis
on February 21, 2017 11:49 PM
A candle was lit by Carolene Mahnken & Jay Barone
on February 21, 2017 10:30 PM
A candle was lit by Juan Hidalgo
on February 21, 2017 9:31 PM
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